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-Let’s suppose I had an apple pie…and out of this apple pie, I take out a piece…and I give it to you and I say Ron, what is this?
-Hmm, it’s an apple pie
– How do you know that?
– Because it came from an apple pie
– So, that’s a very profound statement…everything in the universe must be like what it came from…
You can take an acorn and you’ll never get a rose bush out of it…look at yourself and ask the question, where did I come from, who am I, and what am I like and instead of making our choices out of who we really are, our authentic self, we make them out of the ego and every time we make choices out of the ego, all kinds of things begin happening to us that take us away from finding meaning…
-How do you know you are making a choice from your higher self?
You gage everything on the basis of how you feel…are you stressed out, angry, fearful, do you feel good about yourself, are you are purpose, do you feel like your life has any meaning? When you are operating out of the only part of yourself that is authentic, bliss is your response.
-Doesn’t ego serve me? If I was going with the flow I wouldn’t get anything done.
-That’s a conclusion you come to because you think out of the ego…the fact is, you may even get bigger and better things done if you came out of a higher place. Imagine yourself being able to work and to do everything you do from this place…well, it is called Dharma.
-It is a spiritual principle that states that there is purpose to our lives. Like a bird has a Dharma. Everything has a purpose. And if you find yourself working from that purpose, you will have found your Dharma. It is something that you will be living by and rather than using the ego, you will begin seeing what you are here for; you call it a calling, it is like an inner calling.
-How do you don’t know what your Dharma is; what if you can’t find your Dharma?
-Well, your Dharma isn’t anything you are ever going to find. It is something you are always connected to. It is your divine purpose. The ego has kept us away from this purpose. If you live according to your purpose, you’ll find that everything will come into your life on time and on purpose. You are a divine creation of God, a spiritual being. You don’t need anyone else to confirm that.
You know that I only recommend resources for
you that I’ve in some way used, explored, etc.
Like you, I am continually searching for tools,
techniques and resources that help me live a
more fulfilling, prosperous and peaceful life.
The tool I want to share with you today is the Sedona Method which I use on a daily basis.
Recently I ordered their latest product: Letting Go, the movie. Check it out for yourself.
1. Devote themselves to their true purpose
2. Follow their heart’s passion
3. Believe in themselves and their ideas
4. Prepare for challenges
5. Ask for help and build a support team
6. Seek creative solutions
7. Persevere, no matter what the challenges
from Unstoppable by Cynthia Kersey
Sourcebook Inc, 1995
Want to tame your unconscious? Stuart Lichtman, developer of Cybernetic Transposition Method exposes it in “How to get lots of money for anything fast.”
So, what’s the secret to creating more joy or money now? And what’s stopping you? The roadblock isn’t in your thoughts or your conscious mind.
It is deeper. It’s in your unconscious. If there is anything you are attempting to achieve and not achieving it, chances are your unconscious holds the answer.
You can have a conscious thought (“I want to have more fun”) but right after that you may have another thought (“I never have fun”), a limiting belief.You cancel out your own request. As a result, you usually won’t get what you want. According to Lichtman, you must let your unconscious work for you. In his book, he teaches 2 three-step processes that are suppose to end the mental self-sabotage. He states that he has tested this method on 50,000 people with success!
Eastern science of the mind meets Western science of the brain in this book.
Siegel defines the human mind as “an embodied, relational process that regulates the flow of energy and information.”
The emotion is the energy and the information is thought and “it always happens in relationship.” For Siegel, the mind and the brain aren’t the same.
He states: “where our attention goes (the mind), energy flows and the brain grows.” For the author, that explains why mindfulness practices are beneficial for personal transformation…i.e.
…”being aware of what’s happening as it’s happening.” This integration of three elements in the person, mind, brain and relationship–what Siegel calls the “The Triangle of Well-Being” is the key to happiness and health.
as reviewed by Kat Knecht, PCC in Choice, vol 7, num 3.
Happy 2009! May you set and attain all your most important goals this year.
We all have an important choice to make, one that will make a huge difference in our lives: we can wait until things happen to us from the outside or we can decide to make things happen from the inside.
How? By making a decision to come from within with a clarity of purpose and vision. Be proactive, creative and conscious or reactive and unconscious. We can play a game of wait and see or one of creative direction. Choose!
“ Wisdom is to live in the present, plan for the future and profit from the past.” (Anon)
Two weeks ago, I screened Bob Proctor’s latest message on goal setting. Based on Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich. Proctor reminds us that there are 6 easy steps to getting what you want. I encourage my clients to do this. I works. I promise.
1. Decide what you want: materially, professionally,spiritually.
2. Write it down on a card that you can easily carry around with you.
3. Read your goal(s) aloud to yourself morning and night.
4. Don’t simply ‘wish’ that your goal will be realized but ‘be ready to receive it’ i.e. believe with feeling and emotion that it will happen. Imagine it as already actualized. See it!
5. Visualize yourself having what you want and feeling how that makes you feel! Really get into it. The unconscious mind responds to feeling and emotion.
6. Keep your mind in this new ‘frequency’ (for lack of a better word) until what you want manifests itself.
Hill’s method works. I see the results. Check out the chapter on Desire in Think and Grow Rich for more information.
In my opinion, this is the best self-development book ever written!
A Networking Plan to Create your Business Future
Clearly networking is one of the major keys to business success. I encourage my business clients to create networking strategies to get their message ‘out there’. Here are a few ideas from Ivan Misner to create your future:
Week One: Set networking goals. These should be measurable, attainable and have a deadline. For example, “To meet at least 2 prospective clients each week.”
Week Two: Make time to network and block it off on your calendar. “To have an early breakfast meeting each Tuesday morning with a client.”
Week Three: Make a clear profile of your ‘ideal client’. Who is this person? What characteristics make him/her a perfect fit for your product or service? When you are able to describe the ‘ideal client’ to people in your environment, it will be easier for them to make referrals.
Week Four: Identify your team of ‘angels’. These are people who can help you find your ‘ideal clients’ and who will actively refer them to you eventually. It may be another client, an acquaintance, someone who admires you or who is a member of your club.
For more information, read: The 29% Solution; Ivan Misner. ISBN 978-1-929774-54-8
Stories We Need to Know by Allan G. Hunter
Therapist and English literature professor Dr. Allan Hunter uses the wisdom of over 3000 years of literature and myth as well as the findings of modern Psychology to explore the stories we need to understand in order to help identify which of 6 archetypes (The Innocent, The Orphan, The Pilgrim, The Warrior-Lover, The Monarch, The Magician) we are presently living. As well, he identifies the challenges we must to face in order to grow psychologically and spiritually to fulfill our human potential, and does so in a fascinating and coherent way based on over 30 years experience as a counselor and teacher.
Hunter has written a most valuable and practical book. It is truly eye-opening. I strongly recommend it. Findhorn Press. 2008. ISBN 978-1-84409-123-2.
The Power of Purpose
« We live our ‘selves’ by our thought. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. » Herman Hesse
I have been doing a lot of research lately for a book on coaching I want to write. I discover and re-discover the importance and key role of purpose in our lives. Purpose is what creates meaning in our lives and work. It is the reason we get up (or not) in the morning. It is about discovering our life’s calling or vocation. I spend a lot of time with my clients on this basic issue. For me, it is the foundation to everything else we do in life.
Recently, while reading a passage on purpose, I suddenly had a flash and remembered and understood why, at the age of 18 or so, the Jesuits at the college where I was studying invited our graduating class to a monastery for a 4 day ‘retreat’. What did we think about during those 4 days spent in silence? You’ve guessed it: discovering our ‘purpose’ in life. Our ‘life’s calling or vocation’. So, this purpose business isn’t exactly a new concept. However, in a world where we confuse ‘busyness’ and ‘activity’ with a more profound way of living, many people find themselves running around and being busy trying to survive and to find recognition for their worth.
To the question: why do we get up in the morning, we answer, lamely, to have more; to gain approval for our self-worth; to feel useful.
But what if finding one’s true purpose in life was the secret of satisfaction and happiness? What if aligning one’s goals (career, family, relationships, financial, personal development) with one’s values and purpose in life was the answer to all we wanted in life?
Living and working on purpose is the answer. What am I doing on earth? What am I here for? What am I supposed to create and leave as a legacy? Now, we are getting to the nitty-gritty beyond the busyness, the consumerism. By finding our true selves, our purpose or mission in life, all the rest becomes simple and deeply satisfying. The journey is worth it.
Do you sometimes find yourself thinking about your mortality?
I have a friend who says we walk around with an invisible bar code with an expiry date written on it.
We know we won’t live forever, but most of us want to stick around as long as we can. And apparently, every lifestyle choice we make affects our ‘expiration’ date: diet, exercise, stress levels, etc.
Last month, I mentioned some things we can do to promote our mental and physical health.
Here is another suggestion from Stanford University researchers who began studying runners in the 1980s. So much for our preconceived ideas about the negative effects of jogging. “Running and other weight-bearing exercises like vigorous walking and using an elliptical machine work to strengthen your bones, tendons and muscles. They also prevent heart disease.” (Dr. James Fries, author of the Stanford study). So let’s get walking and running!
Check out www.livingto100.com
to calculate your life expectancy
10 Powerful coaching questions in 2009
Answer these questions in 20 words or less. If you want feedback, send them to firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll send you references to reading materials.
1. If I can create a bigger purpose for my life now, what will it be?
2. What gives me meaning in life? How can I connect with my true self on a regular basis?
3. What time do I make JUST for me?
4. What can I do to create more balance?
5. How can I create more fun in my life?
6. Where am I playing too small in my life?
7. When is the last time I did something for the very FIRST time?
8. What is my vision for life? in my relationships, family, health, career, personal growth?
9. What is my ideal job and how close am I to doing this?
10. What is missing in my life right now and what do I want to create in 2009?
Stories We Need to Know by Curry College professor Allan Hunter is extremely fascinating. As a guide to our journey through life, this book uses the wisdom of over 3000 years of literature and myth to explore six archetypes or distinct stages and the way they impact our lives. Its contents are truly transformational.
Indeed, this brilliant book is a true goldmine of practical advice to help identify which of the six archetypes we are currently experiencing. The presentation of these distinct stages of personal development are the result of more than 30 years of counseling, research and teaching by Dr. Hunter. By examining and uncovering the secrets of great literature, Allan Hunter reveals exciting new ways of understanding the worlds of literature and psychology as they affect our daily lives. I highly recommend Stories We Need to Know.
Stories we need to know; Allan G. Hunter, Findhorn Press, ISBN: 978-1-84409-123-2
“Just as we would love to be able to control the weather so that it didn’t rain on our party, we look for ways to control our thoughts…Sometimes it is indeed a wise move to work with the mind’s weather through medication, or a glass of wine, or a strong cup of coffee…but there is something we can do that is more lasting and trustworthy than all of the above–something that gets to the root of our most stormy mental weather, be it stress, depression, anxiety, or frustration. That something is the ancient practice of meditation…Meditation does not make things miraculously different. It doesn’t give us control over the weather. It doesn’t get rid of a stormy mood and replace it with a sunny one. Meditation does something much more subtle and even more magical. It wakes us up and leaves us standing tall in any weather.”
Elisabeth Lesser in The Seekers Guide (ISBN 0-679-78359-8)