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Many young moms and dads are collapsing from burnout. I’ve met some of them in my coaching practice. “There is too much to do in too little time.” That’s the general complaint. Compressions in the workplace and more pressure in careers, growing workloads; consumerism and the pressures of keeping up ‘with the Jones’ ; the economic downturn and other such realities which are stress causing; too much time spent commuting and picking up children at daycare and school; children participating in multiple sports and leisure activities evenings and weekends.
Psychologists report that seven in every 10 clients belong to this category of moms and dads suffering from burn-out or depression (fatigue of the nervous system).
All this lack of equilibrium and balance between work and family life creates stressed out individuals living in ‘survival mode’ rather than experiencing a satisfying and stress free life. People have fewer moments to enjoy relationships; there is just more stress, discomfort and pressure. Both women and men have less time to decompress. As well, kids are busier than ever. Too much need to perform in school and too many parents gearing up kindergarten age children for university at too tender an age. Not a pretty picture.
So what to do? Something has to give. What will it be? Examining how you spend your ‘100 hours’ of awake time in a typical week is a good place to begin.
Exploring one’s core values and priorities is also useful. A life coach will work with you to create a more balanced and satisfying existence based on your values and priorities.
What are some of the benefits clients report getting from professional coaching?
* Clients appreciate being accompanied by a coach ‘who is in his/her corner’…and so not feeling so isolated.
* Clients feel listened to. Validated.
* Clients feel more motivated. More creative. More productive.
* Clients come to realize that they can control their lives. This is empowering.
* Clients get in touch with their potential. They Can make a difference.
* Many clients discover their ‘inner purpose’ which transcends doing or having.
* Clients are apt to challenge their limitations, and go further.
* They learn to reframe their experiences. Thus, they gain a new and different perspective.
* Clients learn to welcome change instead of resisting it.
* Clients discover what they really want in their lives, often for the first time.
* Client develop their awareness and consciousness.
* Clients learn to live in a coherent way by aligning their values and goals.
* Clients become aware that they have total control on their thoughts/feelings. That they can create their reality any way they want. This is extremely powerful and empowering.
How do you know if you have found the ideal coach for yourself?
- Does the coach have a lot of life experience?
- Does the coach approach you with empathy?
- Does the coach have good listening skills?
- Do you feel the coach is centered on your concerns?
- Is the coach certified?
- Does the coach have a professional code of ethics?
- Has the coach explained the coaching process?
- Has the coach demonstrated clarity and openness?
- Do you feel there is a good “fit” between yourself and the coach?
Q-Encountering negative beliefs and how to deal with them?
A-With training in meditation or visualization, an individual can become more self-aware. When you encounter a limiting belief about something or other, you will probably feel worried, afraid or defensive. But, focusing on what you don’t want to feel or on what you don’t want… period is exactly what makes individuals experience negative or non resourceful feelings.
The key then is to begin focusing immediately on what it is you DO want. If you prefer, use the ideas of what you don’t want to trigger questions such as: “What do I want now? or What can I do to get what I want?” This makes you change your focus immediately. You will feel better and these questions will quickly put you in the driver’s seat. They will mobilize you because you will be coming from more resourceful beliefs. Try this!