Archive for the ‘Life coaching’ Category
Early feedback from readers!
It seems that our readers are appreciating the fact that the book is accessible and easy to read. Moka the dog breaks down any possible barrier between the content and the reader. A special kind of relationship emerges. Furthermore,there are many case studies which help to clearly illustrate the principal life lessons contained in the book. The author aimed at creating a playful and engaging narrative. Readers seem to appreciate this!
A good place to begin when coming to terms with your mission in life (a.k.a your contribution) is about getting clear on your values. How do you achieve this? Start with the big picture and create a ‘values hierarchy’ which is really nothing more than writing down your top 5 values in a list, starting from the most important to the least . What’s important to you? Here are a few suggestions:
- Family and relationships
- My self – mental, physical and spiritual health
- Pleasure and lots of leisure time
- Volunteering -helping others-community
- Entrepreneurial adventures -building things
- Money – earning/accumulating/investing/spending
- Being known/fame and celebrity
- Creativity and the arts – writing, painting, sculpting, theatre, film
So what is most important to you? What is the one value you are not willing to live without? What values can you base your ‘life of purpose’ on? This exercise may time take a little time…Don’t rush.
It is never too late to begin discovering your life purpose and passion:
- Discover your true purpose; your calling.
- Develop and follow your unique passion
- Develop powerful beliefs
- Spend time preparing for the challenges ahead. Create goals and action plans
- Network, show up, ask for help and the support of others
- Develop your creativity and seek unique solutions
- Persevere, no matter how difficult the challenges
“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” Brian Tracy
Here are some easy-to-do actions that will quickly lift you out of the rut
- Breathe. Slow and deeply. Become aware of yourself breathing. Because it is the basis of everything, the awareness of your breathing will put you back in the driver’s seat.
- Gratitude. Think about what you have, not about what you don’t have. Focus your thoughts on all the good things you have in your relationships, your lifestyle, your work, and your friends. Turning your mind toward what you have and what is going right rather than what is going wrong will transform your attitude and you’ll begin to feel good. The secret to a happy life is to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. With a little practice, you’ll find this simple practice will make all the difference.
- Please yourself. Drop what you are doing and do something that is pure pleasure and satisfying in the present moment. Take some time to step back and identify what you want in the moment. Go for a massage, call a friend and go for a cappuccino, buy some new clothes, take a walk, listen to your favourite music. Just do whatever it is that will make you happiest now.
- Create some quiet time. Shut off all your electronic devices. Try it for 4 hours. You may want to try meditating, visualising, sitting quietly listening to nature, finding peace by spending some time alone outside.
- Let go of all negative ideas and feelings. It is as easy as letting a pen drop from your hand. First, welcome the ideas and feelings into your consciousness. Then just make the decision to let them go now. ‘How does this make you feel in this moment?’
“Focus more on your desire than on your doubt, and the dream will take care of itself. You may be surprised at how easily this happens. Your doubts are not as powerful as your desires, unless you make them so.”
Author and Speaker
The key is to decide what we want to do and then to commit to making it happen.
Create the dream. Live the dream. Support other people to live their dreams.
When we change the way we think and feel (yes, we are in the driver’s seat), we change the way we live.
When we consciously decide to change our perceptions and attitude, our life changes.
We are too lax in letting media tell us what to think! When we think for ourselves and plan our own lives, we are happy.”To be free, I’ve got to be me.”
The financial and emotional toll of losing one’s job can be devastating. Anger, sadness, fear and a sense of betrayal appear.
People losing their job report feeling shock, denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance…all stages associated with grieving.
‘What we do and who were are’ in our culture are tightly intertwined. An individual’s identity can undergo severe trauma when experiencing a job loss.
As an individual goes through the different stages of grieving, he will eventually begin to disconnect the job loss from his sense of self-esteem and perhaps begin to accept the change in his life. Resentment can subside and then he may begin to think about what to do next. Individuals begin to think of their next move in terms of what would be a positive next move for them to make. Beginning to plan for the future is the solution and can open up possibilities and options.
Working with a professional coach is an ideal way of making this passage successful.
When we think of psychology, we associate it with helping a person faced with a psychological problem or depression.
The approach taken by Positive Psychology is attempting to change such limiting thinking. Its proponents are more concerned with personal strengths rather than human weakness; building resiliency and feelings of fulfilment and identifying talents in individuals. Because this branch of psychology focuses on people’s strenghts and virtues, it can contribute to an individual’s happiness.